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Unlocking Your True Desires: How to Set Goals When You’re Unsure

May 10, 2024

Hello, lovely readers!

It’s Katie Joy here, and today, I want to delve into a topic that touches many of us: the daunting question of what to do when you’re not quite sure what you want. You know, that feeling of being a bit lost or out of direction when it comes to setting goals? Yes, that one! Whether you’ve experienced this before or are currently feeling this way, this post is for you.

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Step 1: Understand Your Desires Through Jealousy

First off, let’s tackle this with a bit of an unconventional approach. It might sound odd, but jealousy can actually be a great tool for self-discovery. Think about it — the things that trigger jealousy in us often point directly to what we deeply desire. That tinge of envy when you see someone living your dream life isn't just a pang of want; it’s a clue.

Take a moment to reflect: Whom do you find yourself envying, and what about their situation draws you in? This isn’t about fostering negativity but about uncovering truths. Those feelings are your clues to understand the deep-seated wishes you might not have even admitted to yourself.

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Step 2: Breaking Through Belief Barriers

Next, we need to address the big, often invisible barriers: our beliefs. Many of us don’t pursue our dreams because deep down, we don’t believe they are achievable. Do you believe you can have what you really want? Or do you think it’s out of reach for someone like you?

I want you to challenge these beliefs. Recognise that these mental blocks could be the only thing standing between you and your dreams. By acknowledging and addressing these doubts, you open the door to real, actionable change.


Step 3: Imagining a New Reality

Now, let’s do a bit of dreaming – but with a twist. Imagine how your life would change if you multiplied your income tenfold. Or imagine a life where daily financial worries aren't on your to-do list. What would you do differently?

This isn’t just wishful thinking; it’s a powerful exercise to shift your mindset and explore new possibilities. It helps you see beyond the daily grind to what could be possible if you allowed yourself to think and act differently.


Bonus Exercise: Define and Achieve Your Goals

Here’s where the rubber meets the road. Get specific about what you want. Is it travel? Starting your own business? Whatever it is, write it down. Make it clear, actionable, and dare I say, exciting! Set a timeline and start with small steps. For instance, if you dream of a Caribbean cruise, jot down, "I will go on a 10-day Caribbean cruise in mid-2025." See? Now you have something tangible to work towards.




Dreaming big starts with small, intentional steps. Remember, the first step towards achieving any goal is defining what you want. So take that step today. Define your desires, challenge your limiting beliefs, and dare to imagine a bigger, brighter future.

I hope this has been helpful for you. If you enjoyed this post and want more tips on creating your best life, don’t forget to download my free Journal Reflection Guide, Unlock Your Goals: A Quick Guide | Discover What You Truly Want and Set Meaningful Goals! No opt-in required; just click here to start your journey towards clearer and more meaningful goals.

Until next time, dream big and act now! Much love, Katie.