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How to Embrace Forgiveness and Set Healthy Boundaries

May 21, 2024

Hey there, lovely souls! Today, I’m diving into a topic that’s incredibly close to my heart: forgiveness. It's something many of us struggle with, whether it's forgiving someone who’s hurt us deeply or finding it in our hearts to forgive ourselves. So, let’s explore this together and discover some strategies that can truly make a difference.


Discovering the Power of Forgiveness

Have you ever heard of a little book called "The Little Soul and the Sun" by Neale Donald Walsch? If not, you’re in for a treat. It’s a fantastic read and beautifully illustrates the concept of forgiveness and our purpose here on Earth. I often call it the missing Bible or the secret Bible because it sheds light on who we are as souls and the importance of experiencing contrast to learn forgiveness.

In the book, we learn that to forgive, we must first experience something that needs forgiving. This concept of contrast helps us understand and embrace forgiveness. For instance, someone has to lower their vibration and cause us harm for us to learn and practice forgiveness, thus allowing us to experience love at a deeper level.


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Personal Journeys and Realisations

For those of you who don’t know me, I’m a retired paramedic with a history of relationships with malignant narcissists, a psychopath, and a sociopath. I’ve seen some dark days. But through these experiences, I’ve learned that holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It only harms us.

One major realisation that helped me let go of anger and resentment was understanding that forgiveness is about me, not them. Forgiving someone who has hurt us allows us to release a lot of pent-up energy and move forward. This is equally true for forgiving ourselves.


Forgiving Yourself

When we hold onto resentment towards ourselves, we fragment our being and prevent ourselves from feeling whole. By letting go of that resentment, we can embrace and integrate all parts of ourselves again. This integration brings more energy and excitement into our lives, helping us to move forward with joy and vitality.


The Key Strategy: Embrace the Power of "And"

Here’s a strategy that I find incredibly powerful:. Most people think in terms of black and white when it comes to forgiveness: either I forgive you, or I don’t. But what if we used the word "and"? I can forgive you and still set healthy boundaries. I can love you and not agree with your actions. I can forgive you and choose not to see you again.

This little word, "and," allows us to hold multiple truths simultaneously. It helps us maintain our boundaries while practising forgiveness. It’s a way to protect ourselves without holding onto resentment. Remember, forgiving doesn’t mean we allow harmful behaviour to continue. It means we free ourselves from the burden of resentment and take steps to protect our well-being.


Setting Healthy Boundaries

Healthy boundaries are crucial. They prevent us from being doormats while allowing us to move forward with forgiveness. Boundaries ensure that if someone violates them, there are consequences. This approach doesn’t mean we tolerate harmful behaviour; it means we protect ourselves and respect our own needs.


The Importance of Self-Love

Choosing to forgive and setting boundaries are acts of self-love. They allow us to stop leaking energy and feeling burned out. When we hold onto resentment, it drains our energy and keeps us stuck in a cycle of perpetual suffering. Letting go and forgiving with boundaries in place helps us reclaim our energy and channel it into creating a life we love.


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Forgiveness is a powerful tool for self-healing and growth. By embracing the power of "and," setting healthy boundaries, and practising self-love, we can free ourselves from the chains of resentment and create a vibrant, fulfilling life.

Until next time, lots of love, light, and manifesting miracles, magic, and more. Don’t forget to hit like, subscribe, and leave a comment down below. I’d love to hear from you!

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Let’s continue this journey of self-discovery and empowerment together. Thank you for joining me on this beautiful path of forgiveness and love.