Feeling Lost? Here’s Why It’s Happening — And How to Find Your Way Back to You
The Soulful Truth About Alignment, Identity & Remembering Who You Are
By Katie Joy | The Global Butterfly
“I feel lost…”
It’s one of the most common things my clients say in our very first conversation.
And if you’ve found your way here, I want you to know — you’re not alone.
You might be here because you’re in a transition:
✨ You’ve outgrown a role, relationship, or identity…
✨ You’ve poured so much energy into others, you’re not sure what’s left for you…
✨ Or maybe life just doesn’t feel like yours anymore — even if everything looks “fine” from the outside.
Let’s make one thing clear right now:
You’re not lost. You’re in a sacred recalibration.
And today, I’m going to show you why this is happening — and how reconnecting with your core values can gently, powerfully, and permanently lead you home to yourself.
Why “Feeling Lost” Is a Sacred Signal (Not a Problem to Fix)
If you’re feeling lost right now, there’s a very good chance you’ve been:
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Living on autopilot
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Putting others’ needs first
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Holding everything together while silently feeling disconnected
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Achieving all the things… but noticing a lack of fulfilment
This isn’t because you’re weak.
Or broken.
Or doing life wrong.
It’s because you’ve been following someone else’s map.
You’ve been living by other people’s values.
Their shoulds. Their definitions of success. Their expectations.
And your soul is whispering:
“This isn’t who we came here to be.”
The Quiet Power of Core Values
So what are core values, really?
They’re not just words on a wall or exercises in a leadership manual.
Your core values are the deep emotional and energetic priorities that support you to feel anchored, alive, and aligned. When they’re honoured, life feels expansive. When they’re ignored, you may notice tension, restlessness, or a sense of disconnect.
When values are out of alignment, many people experience:
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Disconnection from intuition
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Difficulty making clear decisions
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Energetic burnout
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A sense of having lost direction
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Uncertainty about what truly matters
When you’re in alignment, life begins to feel:
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Clear
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Energised
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Empowered
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Purposeful
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Peaceful
You begin to build — or rebuild — a life that feels like it’s actually yours.
Why You Might Not Know Your Values (Yet)
If you’re realising, “I’m not sure what my values are,” — please know this:
Most of us were never taught to ask.
Let alone prioritise them.
We were conditioned to:
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Be the good girl.
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Keep the peace.
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Be productive and polite.
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Push through.
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Avoid rocking the boat.
No wonder so many women and soulful humans feel lost.
You’ve likely spent your entire life learning how to fit in — not how to feel aligned.
A Real Moment from My Journey
Years ago, I walked away from multiple investment properties, a version of success I’d built, and a life that looked great on paper — because it didn’t feel right in my soul.
At the time, it felt like losing everything.
Now I know it was the beginning of finding everything that truly matters.
I chose to rebuild from the inside out.
Value by value.
Soul truth by soul truth.
That’s when the GGA™ Method was born. That’s when my coaching work deepened. That’s when my entire life shifted into congruence.
And that’s why I now teach this — because clarity isn’t found by thinking harder.
It’s found by remembering what your soul already knows.
Signs You’re Out of Alignment With Your Core Values
Ask yourself:
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Do I notice recurring tension or emotional dissonance, even around small things?
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Do I say yes when I feel a clear no?
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Do I feel like I’ve diluted or dismissed myself in relationships or work roles?
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Am I often caught in looping thoughts around what I “should” be doing?
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Do I feel depleted even when I’m doing all the “right” things?
If any of this resonates…
It’s not because you’ve failed.
It’s because you’re being called to realign.
How to Start Reconnecting With Your Values Today
This doesn’t have to be overwhelming.
Start with a few gentle prompts in your journal or during quiet reflection:
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When do I feel most like myself?
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What qualities in others deeply inspire me — or create discomfort?
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What situations tend to activate internal tension or frustration in my experience?
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Where am I noticing misalignment between what I say I want and how I’m living?
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What am I currently tolerating — and what is that energetically costing me?
If you'd like support with this process, I’ve created a free Core Values Reflection Guide to help you walk through this with grace and clarity. (Link below)
You Haven’t Lost Yourself — You’ve Been Redirected
Your clarity is not gone — it’s just been clouded by obligations and old programming.
Your confidence is not broken — it’s waiting to be remembered.
Your purpose is not missing — it’s quietly waiting for permission to rise again.
This isn’t a breakdown.
It’s a recalibration.
And your values are the light that guide you home.
Final Thoughts
This journey back to yourself is sacred.
It’s not about fixing anything.
It’s about realigning with your truth — not someone else’s.
You are allowed to want more.
You are allowed to stop running.
You are allowed to pause, breathe, and begin again — from your centre.
You don’t need to reinvent yourself.
You just need to reclaim who you’ve always been.
Ready to Begin?
✨ Download your free Core Values Reflection Guide here → www.TheGlobalButterfly.com/values (Coming Soon)
🎧 Or listen to the podcast episode → Why You Feel Lost (And How Your Core Values Can Lead You Home)
Know Someone Who’s in a Season of Transition?
Send this to them.
Remind them: They haven’t lost themselves. They’ve just been called to realign.
And they don’t have to walk the path alone.
With compassion, clarity, and calm,
Katie Joy
Founder, The Global Butterfly
www.theglobalbutterfly.com
